Ask the Urban Dater: The Job Seduction Edition

Ask the Urban Dater: The Job Seduction Edition

However, don’t give too much personal or private information right away, because the person on the other side is still a complete stranger, and not everyone on these chatroulette sites are looking for a serious date or relationship.   Polish your profile… with honesty No you don’t have to create a stellar profile by saying you’re the hottest babe or dude in the country. If you want to get into a real and lasting relationship, just try to be honest about everything, including your body type, height, personality, hobbies, etc. As suggested by The Huffington Post, you might even consider sharing about your sexual behavior. Avoid using fake or overly Photoshopped photos as profile pictures; instead, try to upload a full body image, plus another close-up shot of your If you want even better results, ask for help from photography veterans. On a similar note, be honest and realistic when describing the kind of partner you are looking for. Don’t mess around by writing fake information; it won’t do you any good if you’re actually looking for something real.   Last note: online dating is not a one-hit wonder Don’t expect to find your perfect match within a few days or on your first date – it certainly can happen if you’re lucky enough, but chances are, it’ll take some time before you find the one. So keep at it! If your first few dates don’t end up too well, don’t give up and try again. With every date and every person you meet, you’ll inch closer to knowing what you really want. That’s the fun and beauty of online dating. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox!

Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook0Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Online Dating Tagged in: Online Dating Illustration by Guy Wolek Renee Medema recently authored book titled “How to Lose the Wrong Guy… Without Losing You.” The book begins with stories of negative relationships, including her own, and progresses into advice on how to better vet guys, including the importance of having support systems in place, and ends with some very cool stories of relationships from women who have vetted their guys and are in happy relationships today as a result. The collection of stories, advice, experiences, and recommendations in the book highlights elements that are truthful and useful in any dating scenario or long-term relationship. Below is an introduction to the book. I pick up the phone … “Hey, how are you?” I hear uncontrollable sobbing and a broken, barely audible voice. “We had a fight again. He stormed out and said it was over for real this time. Why won’t he just answer me? After all I just want to talk to him to make sure everything is okay.” I hear more sobbing … I pause and then ask “What did you fight about?” “I don’t even know.

Everything seemed to be good. We were having a relaxing night at home and I mentioned something about a few nights ago when it took him four hours to answer my text. That night I had asked him what took him so long, but he never answered me and it was bothering me. He’s done it before and my gut is telling me that he might be cheating, but I don’t know for sure. I brought it up so I could see if he would give me a solid answer this time and he completely overreacted. He got off the couch and told me if I didn’t trust him, then we couldn’t be together. He told me I never give him any space and I always accuse him of doing something wrong. He said that he felt he couldn’t catch a break and no matter how hard he tried it was never good enough for me. Then he said if he wanted to be with anyone else, he would just leave me. He said ‘I told you I would never cheat on you, but I am tired of trying to prove myself and it might be better if we take a break.’ Then he left.” I say, “You’ve had fights like this in the past.

Just give him a little time to cool down. He’ll come back.” I can hear in her voice that she’s fighting back the tears … “What if something happened to him?” I say, “He’s fine. He probably just went for a drive or maybe went to the gym to work out.” Then I hear the words I was dreading to hear: “I honestly don’t know what I would do without him. Maybe I am too hard on him. I know he’s going through a lot right now, but he is a really good guy. I probably don’t give him enough space. It’s just that I love him so much and want to be with him all the time.” I wish I had only heard this story once, but I’ve heard it over and over again from too many of my girlfriends. It’s unfortunate that sometimes we allow guys to manipulate us into believing something that isn’t true.

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It’s also unfortunate that ninety-nine percent of the time in a scenario like this, the guy is cheating. I’m not a relationship expert, but I have seen enough women settle for less than they deserve and I feel obligated to share what I have learned. I don’t want to pass up an opportunity to impart knowledge and wisdom that may help other women. I’ve made mistakes and enjoyed successes, but I’ve always tried to live life to its fullest and avoid the possibility of looking back at any situation and saying “if only” or “I wish I had.” I encourage you to “carpe diem” and seize this moment in your life to decide that you will no longer settle, you won’t let obstacles stand in your way, and you will live life every day like it’s your last.

Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook11Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships Tagged in: Dating If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like for people who enjoy one night stands and “polygamy relationships” with absolute impunity and no worries, perhaps this is something you might care to look into for your own edification. After all, hundreds of people – including plenty that you are personally acquainted with – are out there, living their lives and enjoying themselves with no shame, no guilt, and nothing to worry about. Is this the sort of freedom you’ve always dreamed about but were simply too squeamish to try out for yourself? Why Worry About Having A One Night Stand? Why should you worry about having a one night stand? What have you seriously got to lose? If the thought of hooking up with an attractive person of the opposite sex excites you, why not try it out on a zero commitment basis? As long as the action occurs between persons who consent to such activity, what’s wrong with it? Best of all, the Internet has enabled like-minded persons to discover each other and meet in real life on a zero strings basis.

It goes without saying, whatever happens between consenting adults is no one else’s business. Some Medical Authorities Believe Having An Affair Is Good For You Did you know that some trusted and respected medical authorities actually tend to believe that having an affair is not only harmless but could even be the cause of some great good for your health? It seems that some physicians believe that having a nice hot one night stand could stimulate your sexual health and also give a much-needed boost to your overall well-being. If you really think about it, it only makes sense. After all, it’s been proven that sexual activity stimulates the heart and burns calories. And it’s a proven reliever of tension and frustration. Why not try it and see for yourself? Even beyond such obvious medical issues, enjoying a timely affair could reduce your stress levels, which may be sky-high through prolonged sexual frustration.

It seems many doctors now agree that letting go of such stress can only be good for you. If you’ve been looking for a good reason to release your tension, perhaps a night of passion might just fit the bill in a more enjoyable way than risking injury through contact sports. Of course, the choice is yours, but perhaps change is in order! Is There Such A Thing As “Polygamy Relationship” Sites? If you are wondering whether such a thing as a“polygamy relationship” site even exists, the answer is an emphatic yes. Sites such as Badults, among many others, are designed specifically for the use of adults who are seeking one-time dates with no commitment. You can log on to one of these sites and enjoy a completely anonymous browsing experience with every chance of finding a similarly minded person who would like nothing more than to join you for an exciting and passion filled evening. There’s no commitment, no strings attached, and nothing to lose, so why not take advantage of such an enticing offer? Why The Internet Is Perfect For Affair Dating The Internet is the perfect venue for consenting adults to enjoy the new and thrilling experience of affair dating.

You can log in anonymously, browse around the website you choose with complete impunity, and no one needs to know you’ve been there. You can quickly do an erasure of your history, and that’s that. Better yet, the Internet can give you hundreds of options to choose from, all of them located within your metro area. If you’ve ever wanted to enjoy a one night experience with someone from your town, or maybe one town over, now is the perfect time to make that fantasy come true. An Affair Dating Site Brings People From Different Worlds Together One of the most attractive features of an affair dating site is that it brings people from completely different worlds together. For example, if you sometimes fantasize about foreign affairs with people from completely different cultures and walks of life, an affair dating site is the perfect place to find and get to know them for a while. If the thought of this experience makes you curious to find out what it would be like in real life, the Internet is the place to start searching. It’s Time To Have A Bit Of Safe And Naughty Fun In the end, the choice is yours.

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Why not enjoy a little bit of safe and naughty fun while you’re still able to? Affair dating offers an anonymous safety valve for all of your special and secret needs. Try an affair dating site for yourself today in order to learn how such activity can really do you some positive good. Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook2Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dating & Relationships, Sex Tagged in: polygamy, Relationships, Sex I think this is probably true for a lot of people looking for love today, but I’m coming to realize something that I’m not sure I’m ok with—in fact, I’m pretty sure I find it unacceptable. I find myself more terrified by being “stuck” in a relationship I abhor, than excited by the opportunity of loving and being loved.

How disappointing. I’ve considered myself a realist for many years now—realist, not cynic. Realistically, there are billions of people in this world, and even thousands just in the cities and areas around me that I haven’t met, or known, or walked a day in their shoes. I can’t write off every peer in my area and surround region as all being one of a certain number of categories—that just isn’t going to be fair nor would it be accurate. I haven’t experienced all there is to experience, and I haven’t spoken with those who have seen things I haven’t. I do know there are people with interesting mixes of experience, and those particular mixes of experience have the possibility of producing many different kinds of people. But even so, after I remind myself of all that, I can’t help but notice, that I have written them all off… I am losing hope—not that I’m ok with that, by any means. I never thought I would be someone more motivated by fear, than I ever would be by opportunity. Truly, it is devastating. Why is it that I have to try so much harder to see the good, the possibilities, and constantly need to remind myself of numbers and statistics, just so I can have a balanced view? Why is cynicism seemingly so much easier? It’s definitely not happier. Have you ever met a happy cynic? You can’t be happy, if you can’t see happy. Yet why does it feel so much harder to fight the good fight, which has a light at the end of the tunnel, than it is to let it all float away, and leave me with the security that if I’m alone, at least I’m not trapped in something I might hate—as if that’s much better.

And yet, even now, in times like these, I know I’m not alone. I know that life is something akin to one giant mess that we make, and remake, and learn how to sort out and make less of. We all have moments of hope, and of fear. We all have moments of passion, and moments of quiet solace. And in reminding myself of those things, I begin to find hope again. Hope that there is more to know, and more to see; more people to meet, and more beauty to behold. Life doesn’t, and shouldn’t, stop for a single person and whether they’re in it or not. It’s about running together, not finding each other to start running. And just like that, I find there’s a small smile on my face as I jog beneath some shady trees, enjoying the easy pace.  I’m not alone, with so many people around me, how could I ever be? Perhaps that is my greatest tendency that leads its way to doubt. If I can’t even see that I’m surrounded by people all day, every day, how can I ever expect to truly have everything I ever hope to gain?   Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook4Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Self Tagged in: Dating, single, singledom So this guy gives me his number, I text him & never heard back! So why’d he give me his number & we go to the same bar!

His birthday is this wk should I go?  he approached me & starting talking to me so our friends pushed it on more then when we were talking he told me he was shy and gave me his number so then we talked outside alone & he was all like call me & stuff so I did which I hate being the 1st to make contact! He’s gonna be at the bar tomorrow & my cousin said u should go look all good & show him what he’s missing.  But that’s not me and I feel dumb being rejected on his birthday.  So I went it was ok said happy birthday that was it & got hit on by a 32yr old guy lol but had fun none the less! 2 old 4 me but oh well! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Dates & Details Tagged in: pickup artist, pua Meh.

Not gonna bother; v-day can blow! When you’re single on Valentine’s Day, nothing in the world seems as bad as having to be surrounded by happy couples for 24 hours. Why should you have to watch people make out on the subway just because it’s the middle of February? It’s a shitty feeling being trapped in a constant cycle of PDA for an entire day. But there’s good news my friends: All of those bitter feelings are going to be completely forgotten about when you wake up the next day– and finally realize that you were, yet again, alone on Valentine’s Day. There are three guarantees in this world: People are going to complain when Facebook changes their layout, you’re going to look like shit the first time you run into your ex, and you’re going to want to end it all when you realize you just spent another V-Day alone. Don’t panic. Put the Jack Daniels down, stop thinking about that potential drunk dial, and leave Googling the closest gun store for a different day. We want you to stay around long enough to get a chance at that long awaited not-singles Valentine’s Day. In an attempt to keep you from offing yourself in the hours following the loneliest time of the year, we thought we’d throw together a list of things you can do instead of killing yourself after realizing you were alone on Valentine’s Day. YouTube clips of Lindsay Lohan  We’re all familiar with Lindsay Lohan. Whether we know her as the fresh-faced kid from the Parent Trap movie or the sassy teenager from Mean Girls, we’ve all been sucked into watching a movie of hers at some time or another.

It’s hard to pinpoint when exactly her life went so far downhill (First trip to rehab? Second time she had her lip injections botched? Third time she went to jail?), but whenever it was, it happened pretty fast. There’s absolutely no way that your life is shitter than LiLo’s. The constant plastic surgery to fix the most recent plastic surgery job is making her look all sorts of Joan Rivers, and I’m willing to bet that, unlike her, you haven’t been outed to millions of people for having meth-teeth. Google Le Xing You’re not that guy, so… You’re doing pretty good! Go to a Twilight screening Twilight is one of the shittiest movies made in the last 20 years. Coincidentally, Twilight is also one of the highest grossing movies in the last 20 years. How one movie achieves both those things, I have no idea.

But it has happened. What’s depressing about these movies is that people aren’t going to see them ironically or sarcastically– People actually like this shit. The Twilight fandom is bigger than the Star Trek fandom at this point. If you hit up a Twilight screening, you’re going to feel pretty damn good about the fact that you’re the only one there not wearing a ‘TEAM EDWARD’ shirt and sporting a Quileute tattoo. Do a sit up Maybe that will help you get a date for Valentines day ? Valentine’s Day holds the second highest suicide rate annually after Christmas, and while we just made that statistic up, it’s still pretty depressing. Don’t be just another made up number this year– Instead of killing yourself because of your disappointing Valentine’s, do something on this list and feel slightly-less-shitty about your life! If you’d like to read more of Elliot’s witty ramblings, stop by the SexSearch Blog! Signup for Our Newsletter Get Us in Your Inbox! Online Dating, Sex, and Relationship Advice Tips in Your Inbox… Follow @theurbandater Like this:Like Loading… Share This Article Facebook1Tweet0Pin0 Posted in: Opinion, Self, Sex, Special Tagged in: valentines day So you’ve been dating this girl you met online. The first three dates went by smoothly, filled with fun activities and giggles. She seemed to be a great woman.

You’re getting excited about the potential, and at the same time, you’re getting more and more comfortable with her. You felt you could share anything with her, and you did, a lot! Soon after, your texts got neglected, followed by your voice messages unreplied. Just when you thought everything’s going so well, she pulled the plug. You pondered and puzzled, trying to trace back what you did that might have missed the mark. Let’s put this puzzle aside and talk about the allure of mystery. The allure of mystery is abundant in nature. Deep in the tropical forests, Lady’s Slipper orchids draw insects to her slipper-shaped pouches, trap them there, and then force them to climb up as they unknowingly collect or deposit pollen, thus fertilizing the flower.

So what draws the insects to its pouch? It’s the allure of mystery – “What sweet nectar must it have if it gives out such intoxicating scent?” The orchid achieves its goal without moving a leaf. We are products of nature, and we should instinctually know how to attract. In our daily life however, in relationships especially, facts and figures often dominate. And when that’s the case, relationships suffer. Guys often sell themselves too hard and too much in order to impress ladies. From her perspective, it’s selfish and shallow for a guy to be constantly talking about himself and boasting about what he possesses, unless of course that’s what she’s mainly looking for. In the early stage of dating, it’s important to leave some things unsaid, let some of your brilliances be discovered at a later time.